About

“To be effective the proclamation of faith must begin with a heart that believes, hopes, loves; and a heart that loves Christ also believes in the transformative power of the Holy Spirit!” Pope Benedict XVI

I need to update this ABOUT page. It’s been four years since i wrote it. Maybe later. I am taking the personal photos off of it, though. What the heck was I thinking? aye aye aye

Cradle Catholic, a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, daughter-in-law, business-owner, amateur writer-blogger, old-house fixer upper, Labrador-lover, local marketer, down-sizer, alcoholic.  I love Saint Catherine of Siena, Saint Therese Lisieux, Saint Teresa of Avila, Saint Philip Neri and Saint Mary Magdalen.

I pretty much write about the same five things:

Pieta 2First, I am a Catholic. It’s not what I do on Sundays–it’s who I am every day. I love everything about my faith and the Roman Catholic Church: Jesus, his mother Mary, the Eucharist, long-standing tradition of helping the poor and the immigrants, Catholic Charities, confession, the 7 sacraments, the rituals, the incense, the reverence, the quietness, the Bible, the beliefs, the Pope, the priests, the nuns, the Mass, the kneeling and standing, the Trinity, the cathedrals, the saints, the real presence, transubstantiation, the holy spirit, the art, Rome, the Vatican, Catholic schools, pro-life courage, novenas, adoration, converts, Lectio Divina, the Rosary, the bells, the rich history.

I’ve had a connection to God from as far back as I can remember.  I connect with God best when I’m by myself.  I worship Him in community with other people, too, though, because He likes that.

Non-alcoholic Beer

Non-alcoholic Beer-what’s the point?

Second, being an alcoholic has influenced so much of my past it’s a big part of who I am, the good parts and the flawed parts, of which I have many flawed parts. All of my relationships have been influenced by beer. Sober now–and hopefully for always–my life and relationships have been truly enhanced by the people I’ve met and continue to meet in my recovery walk.

I love AA. I realize many get sober without the aid of 12 Step Programs; and I respect that. Part of my story is sobriety without AA meetings for a couple of years, too.  Today, I choose to be a part of AA especially because I connect with other women who remind me of my tendency to escape from uncomfortability by drinking a lot of beer; and 12 Step Recovery programs provide a great forum for helping others–If you are walking this Catholic alcoholic path, too, be sure to follow me over at Living Sober through the Psalms.

Third, my life experiences are very much animated by my birth order, ninth of eleven children in a big Irish Catholic family growing up in the 70s in the South. My parents will celebrate 57 years of marriage this year.  They have created a close-knit, unconditionally loving family and I want to carry this on… This big, amazing family laid the foundation for my life.

Along these same lines, I am one of six daughters—which means I have five sisters.  If you don’t have sisters or you have only one or two sisters, the idea of having FIVE might seem daunting.  But, it’s one of the best things about me!  My Mom and her six daughters call ourselves the “goddesses” and I write about being one of the goddesses all the time.

Fourth, my marriage…even though Husband bugs me sometimes (like today, ha!)  I really love being married and be married to him. I honor our marriage as a sacrament and am so grateful we share the same faith. Husband is my very best friend, an amazing father and the love of my life. Mostly I refer to him as Husband, with a capital H.  Sometimes I accidentally forget my efforts at anonymity and call him by his name.

Fifth, my loves…my two sons.  Oh, how having children has enriched my life!  I have a very close relationship with my boys that thankfully was not ruined by my drinking—I read their minds, intuit their next moves and feel their pains and their joys. I pray they always stay close to their faith and that they do not have the addiction gene.

So there you have it.

I have been attracted to blogging for several years, but never embraced the medium. I was afraid. So I kept my various blogs private. I didn’t want anybody to follow me or read what I wrote.  I feared blogging publicly was:

  1. Vain and I would corrupt myself, end up seeking approval from strangers and “followers” instead of God; or,
  2. That it was too diary-ish–TMI—not a proper thing to do to “talk about my problems” with strangers all the time.  I didn’t want to be like that.
  3. Finally, I worried what people would think about me–what if people hated what I wrote?

Then I started following blogs I liked, mostly Catholic convert blogs. There is a whole world of brave bloggers out there who love their Catholic faith like I do.  They are neither vain nor self-indulgent…they love to write or, like me, have to write.

And the sober bloggers…such courage and selflessness.  Their blogs are true 12 Step work. Such honesty and hope. They explore and live their worlds, connecting with others through writing about it. Some write for themselves, some for a higher purpose and some out of a need for self-expression, I suppose.  Some use blogging to get through things, figure things out, grow. Like me, it seems the writing is necessary.

Several times during the day I’ll experience something and think, “Oh, I need to write about this.”

That’s all for now. I’ll probably change this About page a lot—I’m always editing, revising, re-writing.  This is already the third version, but I promise you it’s the most authentic.

This is my favorite description of the definition of an alcoholic.

And when I struggle with caring too much what other people think, I can read this from My Daily Bread.

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43 thoughts on “About

  1. Hi,

    I read though a few of you blogs. You need to be more charitable. You judge yourself and others too harshly. We all have reasons for behaving badly. It’s normal to be scared sometimes, even when everyone else appears not to be. Driving fast is fine if you’re a racing driver, not so good if you’re still learning; then you need to be a realist.

    • aw thanks! you’re right. i know ijudge myself harshly sometimes. i had a girl in my meetings who said when we take our inventory we need to remember the good stuff about us too! i’m still learning, yes.

    • I believe rigorous self honesty is critical to recovery. We don’t beat ourselves up nor are we doormats – honest self examination is vital to maintaining sobriety. As time goes on, and with practice of the twelve steps we eventually begin to get well. That’s what I did during my 32 year journey in recovery. I’m a recent Catholic convert, which has opened a new door for me. Instead of a self defined Higher Power, I have God, Jesus Christ, The Holy Spirit, Mary, the saints, the Traditions, the bible, and Sacraments to help me grow into the person God wants me to be. What a wonderful combination. We each must find our own path and this is for me! God Bless you. Bill.

      • Yay you for 32 years!!!! So amazing. If you ever want to talk or write about your experience on this blog let me know and ill send you log in info.

        • Great! I will be happy to share my experience strength and hope anytime. Knowing what I know now, I never will put anything in body that will alter my perception…I someday want to meet God and sober! Please email meyour log in info. Thanks

  2. Hi NUMBER 9,

    I am a born Indian Catholic.

    By the way, I was born on the 18th minute of the 18th Day in December 1941. (18+12+1941 = 1971; 1+9+7+1 = 18; 1+8 = 9) – a bit of numerology.

    Though fascinated by the number 9, I would like to know your real name.

    🙂

  3. Hi there, I saw a reference to your blog here in my Google Analytics report. It is SO NICE to see another sober Catholic alcoholic who blogs. Also, thanks for adding SoberCatholic.com to your blogroll, I’ll reciprocate, of course!

    • yes! I’ve been reading your blog a lot of course! So glad you checked your analytics and discovered me the stalker—i’ve probably increased your pageviews lately huh? heading out to drop the boys to school but I look forward to reading your posts and I read your Rosary for Recovery and LOVED it. I prayed the joyful mysteries with your book last Saturday on my drive back from Florida.

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  5. Regina,
    Now that I have reached my 50’s, I am convinced we all have sin addictions of one type or another which we must battle constantly. Mine isn’t alcoholism, but that doesn’t mean it’s not with me every day. Best of luck to you from a fellow Catholic! — Tony

    • Thank you, Tony! And best of luck to you too! Lent coming up gives us a wonderful opportunity to bear our crosses. Addiction is a cross. I heard a sermon once where the priest asked us each to think about that “one thing” that is most blocking us from God. For many of us, that “one thing” is our addiction. Prayers for all of us to have courage.

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  7. Thank you for taking the time to visit (and read) my blog (if it can be called that as the quotes are from others). It is very encouraging to me when someone takes the time to visit, read, comment, etc. What I also like is the opportunity to visit other interesting blogs such as yours. I need, definately, to come back and read more.

  8. Lovely story and so honest! Thank you so much for checking out my blog so that i would be blessed to read and follow yours! Your journey has been quite a ride and i love the way you manage and talk about it! I look forwards to your future posts! God bless you. 😀

  9. Thanks for having passed by my blog and making me discover yours. Keep up the good work and stay away from that bottle! You have such a beautiful family, don’t throw it away! All the best!

  10. Hi, sent you a message that I thought was heading to this commentary. Thanks for the ‘like’ and the invite to such an intriguing blog.

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  14. Thanks for your like of my post. I am an Episcopalian, a brother in the Lord. I was going to post your testimony (About) on a page; however, it’s quite long. If you have a shorter version let me know.

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  16. Hi I just wanted to take the time to compliment you on your blog and thank you for publishing what you have done. I especially enjoyed the post about vanity. I can relate to the vanity as just recently it is as if a veill was opened up and I realized that vanity is my biggest sin and probably the biggest hurdle in my life. I Think that I may be on the verge of being an alcoholic…I have told no one this. I think if I can overcome this vanity I can overcome the alcohol. I too am a dedicated faithful “every day” Catholic as you put it. I too love everything about our faith. Anyhow I don’t know if you even check this blog anymore as it seems no recent posts have been made, but I felt compelled to comment. May God bless you and I hope you’re doing well with your alcohol recovery. Jeff

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