I say, “miracle.” You say, “tomato.”

such-a-soul-quoteI know that’s a stupid title but I have a dorky sense of humor. Bear with me because this might not make sense to anybody but me– lol. I’d struggled a long time with relapse and it baffled me.

I know better.  I had the experience to know what happened when I drank. I had all the consequences that would make someone want to get sober just to avoid negative repercussions. I had two beautiful children worth everything to me. I’d die for them. I’d kill for them! But I couldn’t stop drinking for them. I wanted sobriety. I needed sobriety. I LOVED sobriety. I never stopped trying, but something, something just kept pulling me back to hell. And, no, I’m not exaggerating or overstating by using the word, “hell.”

Ask any of us caught up in alcoholism – or other addictions – how we would describe life when we’re not sober. Hell.

But God has worked a freaking miracle in me. I call it a miracle, assuredly so, embarrassingly because I realize that sounds “hokey,” but it sure feels like a miracle to me. I’ve begged God for a miracle for years; and he (finally) decided to give me one.

I have always had God in my heart. I hear lots of people say they need to get God from their heads to their hearts. I was the opposite! I needed to get God from my heart to my head!

I thought I had God in my head. I have lots of knowledge of God, theology, our Catholic Faith, understood “logically” the will of God, loved Catechism. So, in AA meetings when people said, “Let God direct your thinking,” I really thought I was doing that! But I didn’t understand why I wasn’t changing?

I often said things like, “I wish I could just have a lobotomy.” And, “It’s all my amygdalas fault!” And, “I can’t help it—relapse just “happens!” I did try a hypnotist. I’d even considered electro-shock therapy! I knew, deep in the recesses of my soul, that the problem was in my MIND. God has graced me with a hyper-intuitive mind—so I knew. I knew. I knew there was something not right in my brain.  I just didn’t know how to fix it.

And sober friends would say, “You must not “want” it bad enough.” To which I’d respond (exasperated), “But I really DO want it. More than anything, I want sobriety!” I began to think I was crazy. Why do they think I don’t want it? That couldn’t be further from the truth. Confusion was my constant companion.

So what did God (finally – I say “finally” tongue-in-cheek because I know God’s timing is perfect) do?  He pointed me towards various Scriptures and information, gave me the right consequences, exasperated me enough to where I broke down and begged Him STRONGLY for a miracle. He didn’t do it right away.

It didn’t come until one morning when I woke up with a deep sense of humility and remorse. I poured my coffee, then I went straight to my recovery Bible (not authentically Catholic bible, but I like it because it relates it all to the 12 steps) and I randomly turned to a page. This is what we do when we’re looking for inspiration, right? We just randomly turn to a page and hope God speaks to us deliberately in our randomness, right?

My Bible opened to Ezekiel— particularly Ezekiel 8:17-18, and kept reading through the whole chapter.

This scared the crap out of me. It was all about God’s anger and fury, how He will have no mercy.

This is not the God I know, not the God in my heart. So, I decided to go to another section, assuming that Ezekiel was a mistake—that’s not REALLY what God wanted me to read, right? This time I purposefully turned closer to the back third of the Bible, so I’d be sure to get a book in the New Testament – where God was loving and merciful, right?

Well, I randomly opened to a paragraph in 1 Thessalonians; and THAT sounded like God was angry, too. I shut my Bible and started crying, asking God, “Why are you so MAD at me???”  He didn’t answer me, but I realized in my heart why He was mad—He’d given me so many opportunities to stay sober, sent so many people to help me, given me consequences to spur me, shown me the love of my children to persuade me… But still I sinned, chose hell, chose escape, chose death over life. I fell to my knees and started throwing up—which is normal for me when I feel deep shame.

I was exhausted. I took a shower and went back to sleep. And I woke up feeling light. Weird? Then I remembered what had transpired that morning and I fortified my spirit with these scriptures:

Romans 12:2
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

So, I looked deeper.

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Ephesians 4:23
And to be renewed in the spirit of your minds

1 Peter 1:13
Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.

2 Corinthians 10:4-5
For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God and take every thought captive to obey Christ.

Colossians 3:2
Set your minds on the things that are above, not on things that are on earth.

So, God has given me a “miracle.” Miniscule in the whole realm of miracles but life-transforming for me. In order to change, to truly transform, I can’t just want it. I can’t just commit to it. I can’t just promise it. I can’t will it. I have to allow God to renew my mind--dig out the old shit ways of thinking and replace it with His thinking.  I have to completely turn my thought life over to Him. Rather than let my thoughts come and go as they please—undisciplined and unrestrained… I can turn to God to discipline my thoughts and put them in line with His will.  This is changing my life.

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22 thoughts on “I say, “miracle.” You say, “tomato.”

  1. “I have always had God in my heart. I hear lots of people say they need to get God from their heads to their hearts. I was the opposite! I needed to get God from my heart to my head!”

    Thank you so much for articulating what I’ve always felt but never really knew how to express.

    I’ve loved your blog for a while now and am so glad you’re back. Stay sober, stay faithful, stay happy. You have so much to contribute!

  2. I’m a random page flipper too and the other day before mass I happened to flip to this reading, “I will extol you, Oh Lord, for you drew me clear/and did not let my enemy rejoice over me. Oh Lord, you brought me up from the netherworld/you preserved me from among those going down into the pit. ”

    Glad you got your miracle!

    • I love this! and your random page flipping was not so random after all! you repeating it to me has renewed my spirit tonight. thank you so much.

      • Honey, I’m sure you’ll do the same for me sometime. This happened on a really crappy day, and I went to mass in search of answers. I knew I’d find them, I just didn’t think I’d find them on the first page I flipped to.

        • I’m sure you’ll renew my spirit sometime in the future. That morning I had been fighting with my husband and it was one of those days that sobriety just wasn’t as bright and shiny as I like it to be, when I turned to that page it was a reminder that I had been saved when so many are still struggling, I should’ve been grateful and I was. The rest of my life has to be spent figuring out what I was saved for and I’m glad to have the chance to do that.

  3. Boy, did I need this today. Had a relapse yesterday after over a month of sobriety. Today is a new day with new opportunities and the sacrament of confession. God bless.

  4. Beautiful and very helpful!  Sherada  Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly. -St. Francis de Sales

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  5. Romans 12:2
    Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

    Absolutely love this. Wow. I feel your energy shift with every word you type. I’m so happy for you! I came into recovery a catholic. I continue in recovery with God as my best pal and a renewed mind. My goodness. I couldn’t be happier for you. Love you. Always have you been in my prayers. ♥

    • Hi! Sorry for the delay! I use the regular Catholic Bible and then the Recovery Bible…I think it’s called the Life Recovery Bible. Thank you so much for visiting my blog!

  6. I feel so blessed to have stumbled upon your blog!! Your words have given me strength for my journey!! Our Lord performed a “little” miracle for me 12 days ago at a retreat for Catholic Women. I have been sober for 12 days…What has been steady on my mind is when Jesus said to his disciples. “Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me…” -Matthew 16:24 And the words “Jesus I trust in you.” That our Lord instructed St. Faustina to have placed on the painting of the vision she saw of Him…. Please pray for me (I have added you to my prayer list as well).

    • yay! Jesus I trust in you! My mom and sister are so devoted to praying the Divine Mercy chaplet. Thank you so much for your comment!

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